I have a comfort zone and all of my life people have been telling me that I need to get out of it. It is easier said than done. What is my comfort zone?
- No Crowds.
- No socializing with unknown people.
- No group activities.
- Too shy to network.
- Not a approachable.
- Not making the first move when it comes to dating.
- Not asking for help when needed.
- Not taking risks.
- Not leaving the house.
- Basically, being a hermit.
That is terrible, is probably what you are thinking and it is, to some extent. It is not that I don’t want to do these things, but more so doing them gives me anxiety. Being around too many people that I don’t know at one time, gives me serious anxiety and I feel like everyone is watching me, even though they aren’t. Weird? yes, I know, but it’s the truth.
I believe staying in my comfort zone may have led to me not receiving a lot of jobs. I get very awkward un uncomfortable situations, i.e. an interview. I feel so much pressure to say the right things and when it comes to questions I don’t know an answer to off the top of my head, I freeze and there’s a long, awkward, can slice the air with a knife, silence.
In situations like Happy Hour with strangers or meetups, I tend to be the one that is ignored and quiet while everyone else is having a good time and enjoying themselves. No one remembers me and it’s not that I don’t want to be remembered, it’s just that in those situations, I don’t know what to say or how to start a conversation. Are there classes on that?
A comfort zone is what a lot of us use as a crutch in order to get out of doing something, not realizing that we could be holding ourselves back from something great. I vow this year to step out of my comfort zone and start meeting new people and socializing. What could it hurt? Worst thing that could happen is you never see them again.